one small girl

sweet as a eucalyptus, terrible as a tempest

girlfriend

editorial meetings are always laced with non-business discussions. the usual brainstorming interspersed with gossip.

at one time, the conversation got to this top honcho, married of course, dating this young actor. Really? but she looks so...angelic!

i think it comes with the job, one says. topmen just do it - date around, have flavors of the month, make the new young thing their girlfriends.

which is not at all an excuse for fooling around, but that's not what this post is about.

i've heard this "girlfriend" term used by married men a few times as an example. "If i had a girlfriend, i would...", "if it were my girlfriend...", "it's like talking to my girlfriend..." "i would only say things like that to my wife, or my girlfriend..."

the assumption is that it's hypothetical, because the men are married. my assumptions that is. or that girlfriends were references to their pre-nuptial past.

i don't know if those statements convey more than i read from them. i don't know that the other men in the conversation would take those statements nonchalantly as a given that it would be perfectly normal, and likely, for the talker to have a girlfriend.

i don't know if a reference like "like my girlfriend" means being regarded as one, as one fitting the mold. it's extremely disturbing.

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